Did you ever wish you had control over people’s mind or could read what they never say—or even make them behave in a certain way? Psychologists will argue that you can—at least to some extent. All you need to do is to observe. We feel we do, but are we really good at keen observation? You will soon start noticing distinct behavioral patterns.
Here are a few handy tricks to make your life easier and make you feel in control!
Want them to agree more: If you want to increase the chances of someone agreeing with you more, just nod while you are talking. The gesture indicates what you are saying is genuine and you really mean it. Often, the other can’t help but not back in response.
That song stuck in our head: I am sure you are thinking of that catchy yet annoying song that tends to get stuck in your head, especially at the wrong moments. Now, you can put an end to this habit of your brain. As per Zeigarnik effect, our brain tends to remember the things that we have left unfinished. So if you think of the end of the song, you may most likely be able to get it out of your head, at least for that time.
They will say a yes: If you need someone’s help, instead of saying “I need you to do this”, say “I need your help”. This strikes a chord as we all hate the feeling of impending guilt.
Be the first or last: We tend to remember the first and the last thing clearly, for example, the beginning and end of the day. The rest becomes a blur gradually. So if you have the power of setting time for an interview, be the first or last through the door.
Silence drives the point home: Yes, silence is powerful. If you feel someone’s answer to your question or query is unsatisfactory, stay quiet and maintain eye contact. They will feel the pressure and understand that they should have elaborated more, which they will eventually do.
Aggressive no more: Among the rest, there’s a habit that we have carried on since school subconsciously—running away from conflict. The next time you feel there’s conflict coming your way at work, try sitting next to that person in the meeting instead of at the farthest chair. That will help tone them down.
We would love to know what you think. Came across any such super (wink) power of yours lately?